VICES THAT CAN DESTROY A NATION
VICES THAT CAN DESTROY A NATION By Haben Zeray “ I am what I am because of who we all are” Mahatma Gandhi “Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions;
VICES THAT CAN DESTROY A NATION
By Haben Zeray
“ I am what I am because of who we all are” Mahatma Gandhi
“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.” Lao Tzu
- 1. STORED ANGER OR RESENTMENT (kiim in Tigrigna)
This quote by Lao Tzu can also be applied for positive behaviors as well. If you respect others and others will respect you. It is interesting how that works. Try it. Find the best in people and praise them. Commend them for their good contributions and say good things about them with your friends and think the best of them. The result is contagious. You will immediately find out all the good things you said and did will end up coming back to you multiplied. Life gives you back what you offer. Thoughts become words, and words become action, and action end up to be a habit and once a habit gets repeated you have found what defines you best. You become a respectful man or woman and people begin to trust and be attracted to you.
On the contrary, and I am not going to tell you to try this because you can see it all round you. Disrespect begets disrespect. If you are angry around your children and friends you will be surrounded with anger. If you spew hate and resentment, you will be hated and resented guaranteed. And if you are going around belittle ling others people, they will in return belittle you. In other words, in the same way we produced a respected individual above, we end up having an angry man or woman in this scenario. Reverend Desmond M. Tutu of South Africa said it best, “If I diminish you, I diminish myself.”
Allow me to dwell a little bit on the subject of stored anger simply because this character has destroyed a lot of people both mentally and physically, plus its contagious effect gets multiplies to even affect a whole nation . If you don’t talk it out, anger settles inside you and becomes resentment. It begins to grow over time and begins to expand like a balloon. An unsettled anger is like a sack of poison inside you. Soon you will begin to leak or explode. When anger leaks your emotions get affected and your body gets stressed out, bottom line you are not a healthy individual both physically and mentally . Many times stored anger manifests itself in jerk reactions. To be angry is okay if you deal with it quickly, otherwise, you become an angry or resentful person. Resentful people explode. Stay away from them, unless you are able to help them. When explosion occurs there is no rationality and can lead to an extremely regretful set of circumstances. You destroy yourself and harm or even destroy others as well. Don’t wait until your anger begins to leak or explode. Have peace with yourself and others by dealing with every episode of anger as soon as it happens.
Let me give an illustration. Lets say the words that we utter are like rivers that initiate in our thoughts and make their way out “through” our tongues. Some rivers are clean and give life. Take Mereb river of Eritrea, as an example. Mereb becomes Tekeeze in Ethiopia and becomes Blue Nile in the Sudan. Everywhere you go this river is a source of life, wealth and health. Whereas, those familiar with MaayBella, in the years it was flowing, the water was filthy and was a source of sickness. You grow lush vegetables but once you consume anything fed by this river you will be sick. In the same way grudges held for long produces a flow of hatred and evil deeds. Have you ever seen an angry man or woman? They are angry over anything that shows up. You can even say nice things to them and think you are insulting them or disrespecting them and want to fight you. This person has stored anger or for too long, that is why his/her character is labeled as an angry person. He/she is leaking big time! and if not helped will explode.
Have you seem people who can withstand heated discussions and they seem calm almost any time. Follow them, you will find out they don’t hold grudges and are at peace with themselves and with people around them. The universe pays you back what you put out, abundantly.
- 2. PRIDE
I shudder and cringe, when I hear people try to find a place in society by demeaning other people or races. They think if they put-down others they suddenly create an image of themselves that is better than those people that they put down. The good book calls this “pride” and God said, there are seven sins he hates most and “pride” happens to be number one. The prediction is you will “fall”, because “pride comes before fall”. This is also contagious and creates an inflated sense of one-self and when multiplied creates a group of people who belittle others.
No one has the right to undermine or scold God’s creation. He made us of different races, colors, ethnicity etc.. and to collectively call people in a derogatory manner is playing with fire and going against the one who made them. This is pride and the result is “ fall”. This principal is true for individuals and is also true for nations. People not tolerating other people’s opinion and going out of their way to undermine and insult others can only result in weakening one-self and your community. Try debating and coming up with a better idea, instead of labeling those who may not like your idea with false names and unwarranted accusations. For an Eritrean to go around and display the attitude that he/she is better than others is to forget to see yourself on the mirror. The better approach would be to build a better nation yourself first and then, speak out of your achievements even brag, at least you have something to show for it.
The PFDJ party of Eritrea is a philosophy of inflated ego who tries to define itself by undermining others. The party is a liability because its net-worth is negative (its evils far outweighs its meager good). It produces more unhappy people, more suffering, more injustice and poverty with its failed philosophy. The Eritrean government is militaristic and dictatorial whose focus is to work day and night to suppress and to attain a one-man rule with complete disregard for its people. Their system does not work, we have seen it for 22 years. You cannot make individuals (example, educated people) and nations around you smaller than you just by propaganda and by “mightier and holier than you” attitude. You cannot win friends around the world using the only governmental TV (EreTV) to broadcast hate and resentment against almost all neighbors and Super-Powers. PFDJ cannot go against activists who try to help those suffering in unfortunate places like the Sinai desert, Malta and expect them to be respected by the very people they are trying to rule. Their actions will only produce poverty and ignorance. PFDJ sides with evil and brutally punishes “the good” and the result can only be a system not fit for human decency.
Eritrean government has forgotten its creator and will not succeed in what they do. This was true for the Soviet Union, true for North Korea and was true for all those nations that decided to depend on their own might and ignore the power of the creator. PFDJ’s basic philosophy has been to believe in “Dialectical Materialism” since the inception of EPLF in the early 1970’s. Everything happens through the struggle of opposites. Dialectical materialism maintains the view that the world is matter in motion. “Matter as objective reality cannot be created; it is eternal and infinite”. This philosophy denies the existence of a creator or God. PFDJ have shown their indifference to religion and even had persecuted people of faith with utter disrespect and without offering the persecuted a day in court. This deed is counter-productive whether you believe in God or not. PFDJ is a system that goes against humans and humans will overtly or covertly oppose it. This philosophy only leads to poverty, ignorance and cult-like bondage.
What shall we do then? If you are an Eritrean and love Eritrea, Each of us should look ourselves on the mirror. This is because people possessed with “pride” have a blind spot, they cannot see pride in themselves, only other people can be their mirror and hence a need to dialogue, listen and tolerate each other. Humble yourself before your fellow man and God. Deal with your stored anger peacefully. Yes, as Eritreans we do have multiple reasons to be angry at foreign and internal enemies for we were undeniably betrayed for generations. We need town hall meetings to advocate peace and reconciliation among ourselves. We need to start a process to heal all the wounds of the past and build a future that is desirable for us and our future generation. The government can steal our freedom but as people we should not let it steal our dignity until we get our freedom back. The government can succeed to make us poor but we should not let them break our spirit. Our Dignity, our confidence and experience stays with us if we refuse to give-in.
“ I am what I am because of who we all are” Mahatma Gandhi